Course curriculum

  • 1

    Introduction

    • Important Course Download!

    • Questions about the Marriage Process

    • What Makes This Course Different

    • The 5 Steps to Getting Married

    • The Place of Love in Islam

    • Keep These Themes in Mind!

    • Intro Quiz

  • 2

    Our Courtship Story

    • Part 1: If At First You Don't Succeed...

    • Part 2: ...Dust Yourself Off and Try Again

  • 3

    The Truth About Dating and Hook Ups

    • The Shocking History of Dating

    • Are Modern Women REALLY Empowered?

    • How Dating Destroys Women

    • A Tragic Story: When "Gaining Experience" Is BAD

    • The Non-Glamorous Side of Dating They Don't Tell You About

    • How Islam Saves Us from the Catastrophe of Hook Up Culture

    • How Dating Harms Men in Non-Muslim Society

    • Dating Quiz

  • 4

    Step 1: Am I Ready for Marriage?

    • Three MUST-ASK Questions Before Starting the Marriage Process

    • How to Elevate the Marriage Process with Niyya and Dua

    • Three Traps to Avoid at All Costs

    • Three Crucial Relationships

    • Three Crucial Relationships (Continued)

    • REAL TALK: Marriage will be a fairy tale, right? RIGHT?

    • What About Money?! Can You Afford a Spouse?

    • REAL TALK: I'm a 25 year old Muslima. Should I prioritize getting married?

    • REAL TALK: I'm worried about prioritizing marriage over education/career

    • REAL TALK: I'm a careerwoman AND I want to get married!

    • REAL TALK: As a man, should I prioritize career?

    • How Do I Know I'm Ready for Marriage?

    • REAL TALK: Is there one simple rule for knowing when I'm ready for marriage?

    • REAL TALK: As a man, how can I be sure I'm ready?

    • What Can Parents Do to Help Their Kids Get Ready for Marriage?

    • REAL TALK: My parents don't agree with me getting married. Now what?

    • Parents with Teens: What You Need to Know

    • Step 1 In Practice

  • 5

    Step 2: What Should I Look for in a Potential Spouse?

    • Pick the Best Mother/ Father for Your Children

    • How Feminism Can Undermine Your Search

    • Understanding Gender Roles: Islam vs. Feminism

    • The Three Main Areas to Evaluate

    • Modesty: the Degree of Being Alive

    • Character: Doing the Right Thing

    • Is Chivalry Dead??

    • A Personality that Meshes with Your Own

    • REAL TALK: I want to marry someone good-looking. Should I be ashamed of myself?

    • What Should Muslim Men Look For?

    • Is Attractiveness an Important Factor for Men?

    • REAL TALK: What are RED FLAGS brothers should look out for?

    • REAL TALK: As a Muslima, can my expectations for a potential husband be too high?

    • REAL TALK: Some guys have excessively high standards...

    • REAL TALK: Can inter-cultural marriages work?

    • REAL TALK: As a Muslim man, should I consider marrying Ahl al-Kitab?

    • Step 2 In Practice

  • 6

    Step 3: How to Search for Your Dream Girl/Guy

    • Two Routes for Searching

    • The Truth About "Arranged Marriages"

    • But Are "Arranged Marriages" Successful?

    • REAL TALK: "Arranged marriage" feels too business-like!

    • The "Hookup Aunty": How to Work the Aunty Network

    • Getting Help from Parents: The Good, the Bad, the UGLY

    • The Imam at the Masjid

    • The MSA/ISOC: A Golden Opportunity?

    • REAL TALK: The best way to get to know someone before marriage is to be best friends with them, right?

    • Opportunities Through Friends, Workplace, or Volunteering

    • What to Look Out for at Conventions and Matrimonial Websites

    • REAL TALK: The Muslim Marriage System Is BROKEN!!!

    • How Much Looking Is Allowed?

    • REAL TALK: I'm in a haram relationship already!

    • Some Final Tips

    • Step 3 In Practice

  • 7

    Step 4: How to Express Interest

    • Three Common Scenarios for Women

    • Making the First Move: How Can Sisters Approach Good Brothers for Marriage?

    • Sisters: Others Can Help You

    • Let Them Down Easy

    • What About Guys Who Approach You with Bad Intentions?

    • Slide Into the DMs: What About Social Media?

    • How Men Can "Pop the Question"

    • REAL TALK: Is it legitimate to use social media to check out potentials?

    • A Concrete, Step-By-Step Game Plan for the Brothers

    • REAL TALK: Help! I have no wali!

    • Step 4 In Practice

  • 8

    Step 5: Courtship Explained

    • Courtship vs. Dating: What's the Difference?

    • Courtship in a Nutshell

    • Setting Up the Courtship Process

    • Marriage Talks: Questions to Ask

    • REAL TALK: There is too much pressure for guys to perform

    • Ladies and Gentlemen: Proper Gender Etiquette in Courtship

    • How Long Is Too Long for Courtship?

    • Meeting of the Souls: Is This Your Match?

    • Do You Have to Fall in Love Before Deciding to Marry?

    • REAL TALK: Do I need to love someone before deciding to marry him/her?

    • What If You Accept and Someone Better Comes Along?

    • Is He/She LYING to You?!

    • REAL TALK: But how can you REALLY know a person?

    • Three Possible Outcomes After Talking

    • Background Check: How to Get Effective References

    • REAL TALK: How do I know that I know enough to make a decision??

    • Decision Time!

    • REAL TALK: She REJECTED Me

    • REAL TALK: The Bride To Be (Or Her Family) Is Asking for a HUUGE Mahr

    • Is There Engagement in Islam?

    • Logistics at the End of the Courtship

    • Dear Parents, Please Make Your Kid's Marriage Easy!

    • A Final Note for Step 5

    • Step 5 In Practice

  • 9

    Bonus Info

    • What If Your Parents Are Being Overly Difficult?

    • Different Models of Muslim Marriage

    • REAL TALK: NO ONE wants to marry me!!!

    • What Is Istikhara? Does It Involve Dreams?

    • Purpose of Engagement Before Marriage in Islam

    • Quick Note on Muslim Match-Making Websites

  • 10

    Conclusion

    • Approach Marriage as You Would Approach Life as a Whole

    • A Final Note and Dua

    • Before you go...